Since 2009, I have had a heart cry of, “God, Where were YOU!?” I have often felt a crisis of faith, saying, “Why even pray? You only answer if You want. Bad things happen to good people.”
I didn’t always feel this torment. And, trust me, torment it is. I am a God believer. I believe in the realness of Jesus Christ. Not because I was taught it, but because I
experienced HIM. I know He is real. Since He is real, I truthfully feel failed by
Him. I know He is big enough to handle
this emotion I have. I just wish that I
could work through it and get my faith back.
I have SEEN God move mountains metaphorically. I have traveled the world, financed by
prayer. I have prayed for people and seen
them healed. I have been prayed for and
been healed. I have seen people set free
from demonic influence. I have been set
free from demonic influence in which I was NEVER THE SAME AGAIN. This is the minimum of what I have SEEN the
Lord do since he rescued me from drugs and alcohol in 2002. No, I didn’t “find God,” because I was an
addict. People say, “Everyone finds God
in jail.” No, God runs after prisoners
because He loves them. He is always
seeking, searching to reveal Himself. I
was finally at a place of brokenness after a DUI, two times in jail, terrible
withdrawal, and so many evils that I’m not even discussing at this point. I was able to SEE Him and I finally said,
“Come in.”
After this intense conversion, Jesus showed up daily to
reassure His realness to me and restore my sanity. So now, ten years later, I am tormented by
doubt, fear, and “Where were YOU!?”
I heard of a Christian who went through a deep, dark
depression. They said something to the
effect of, “Had I gone through this when I wasn’t a believer, the days would
have been darker. I wouldn’t have made
it through. Because of God, there was
hope.”
I’m not like that. I
have the immediate reaction of, “Where were
YOU!?” I am FOLLOWING You. Why are you ignoring me? Why are you letting me hurt? I AM your follower. I believe in You. Why are you NOT BEING FAITHFUL?” The hurts and pains I went through apart from
Him do not cause me to question Him.
It’s the hurts and pains that happen while following Him.
I’ve been seeking Him out.
Because, like I said, He is real. Denying His existence is not an
option. When my mom doesn’t give me
something I ask for, it doesn’t make her unreal. It means she said, “No.” It doesn’t change her existence.
With all that being said, my pregnancy was amazing. I had a few setbacks, but for the most part,
and I give credit to the Lord, it was a dream.
We all have deep desires that may not make sense to others, but they are
ours. The only thing I thought of during
my pregnancy was making it through the pushing pain, watching the doctor pull
my daughter out from me, and handing her to me.
I imagined her messy and crying and holding my beautiful daughter,
making the pain worth it. I never
considered that a c-section was an option…and I trusted God for this.
When Ella could not fit down the birth canal, as my body
shook in pain and I clung to the rail on the side of the bed, I heard the
words, “C-section.” I grasped the rail
with both arms, lying on my side, shaking, crying, in pain that I can’t describe. I moaned with each contraction trying not to
be one of those, “crazy, screaming ladies.”
Yes, I had an epidural, but it was turned down to a 2 so that I could
feel the contractions in order to push.
The doctor told my husband that after two hours of pushing, the baby
hadn’t budged and I was going into exhaustion.
It didn’t appear that Ella would come any other way. She said, “Push for ten more minutes. If she doesn’t budge, we’ll turn up the
epidural and take you for a c-section.
Talk it over with your husband.”
I looked in Scott’s eyes with tears streaming down my face and we agreed
it would be best. I felt such
sadness. I felt such let down. I cried and cried as my epidural was raised,
while I was still going through intense contractions less than a minute apart
and about a minute long. Scott was
quickly outfitted for the surgery room.
As I was wheeled into surgery, I bawled. The doctor gently and lovingly asked me, “Why
are you so upset?” “I feel like it’s my
fault. I feel like I’m failing. I feel like I couldn’t push her out.” She
said, “Dawn, she cannot fit. This isn’t
your fault. Babies have to come out one
of two ways.” As I was pushed quickly
into surgery, the music in the room became louder. Three words echoed from the radio, “ I Found
God..”
“Where were you?” by
The Fray was playing. I was so comforted
at that point by the Lord. I felt a
Divine peace wash over me. No, this
wasn’t going the way I expected, but even in my brokenness, my questioning God,
He was meeting me in His own way. He was
saying, “I am here, I am listening. I am
IN this.” Sometimes it’s hard, because I
know He can change my situation, but He chooses not to. Knowing He is here, though, has brought
comfort to me. I know that doesn’t bring
comfort to everyone, but it does for me and it keeps me seeking Him. The chorus of the song has always spoken
deeply to me.
“Lost and insecure, you found me, you found me
Lying on the
floor surrounded, surrounded
Why'd you
have to wait? Where were you? Where were you?
Just a
little late, you found me, you found me.”
I’ve always been one that listens to a song and
let it mean to me what I feel it speaks.
I don’t read the artist’s intention, because music speaks to many in
different ways. For me, the important part
of this chorus is “You found me.” Even
when I am broken, hysterical, questioning…God finds me, even when it isn’t
pretty. .. even when I think He’s late.
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